Killing Two Birds With One Stone

What could bullying do to you? The effects of bullying can affect both victims AND bullies. Any kind of bullying (social, verbal, physical or cyber) can last for a while or simply forever.

Effects on bird number 1 : The Victims
The victims can become helpless, low esteemed, crushed, etc. Bullying can also make the victims feel confused, abandoned and solitary because the victims are scared to open up to someone. Feeling betrayed is one of the worst feelings you can ever have because of bullying, but why? Because the victims' friends don't want to talk to them anymore. Tired of being helpless and disliked by their comrades, they might have thought about suicide.

Effects on bird number 2 : The Bullies
Yes, even bullies might be affected by their own actions. Bullies might feel guilty and useless and why? One of  the many reasons is because the victim they bullied on, killed himself/herself.
And after that, the bully might also drop out of school due to lack of interest in school activities. But they can also become alcoholics due to depression and pain.
As you can see, being the bully is as painful as being the victim or the bystander.

Effects on bird number 3 : The Bystanders
Most of the time, the bystanders are the victim or the bully's friends. Some of them might feel guilty because of their betrayal towards their friends. After that, they might have mental and health problems and they tend to abuse the use of tobacco and drugs.

The aftermath of verbal bullying

By Nicolas Laporte, 


    The victims of verbal bullying often suffer in silence. Unfortunately, victims frequently have low self-esteem and tend to self-deprecate themselves. Doing so can lead to depression, eating disorders, a poor social life and academic failure. A major international study demonstrated that victims of verbal bullying on a daily basis are twice more at risk of developing headaches, stomach aches, backaches. Which can lead to them missing school which ultimately results in failing academically. Victims of this horrendous form of bullying often feel lonely and to deal with their loneliness, they frequently turn to abusing drugs and alcohol. At the same time, they experience low self-esteem, a complete lack of self-confidence, higher stress levels and can be depressed. While the consequences of loneliness are terrible, the consequences of depression are just as atrocious if not more. They include: suicidal thoughts (and on rare occasion’s suicidal actions), academic decline, drug abuse, relationship problems and an increased chance of developing a heart disease or back pain. The aftermath of the effects of verbal bullying isn’t pretty but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, as demonstrated by our advice and solutions on how to deal with and how to stop verbal bullying.  Here are some useful links that, no matter who you are and what you do, will find interesting.  

http://www.thereislifeafterabuse.com/Page.html

 http://www.gov.mb.ca/health/protection/docs/abusedefinitions.pdf (Section C) 

http://library.thinkquest.org/07aug/00117/bullyingconsequences.html

http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/verbal-bullying.html

http://www.ehow.com/how-does_4910363_effects-verbal-abuse.htm

http://tweenparenting.about.com/od/socialdevelopment/a/verbal-bullying.htm

http://www.troubledwith.com/AbuseandAddiction/A000000755.cfm?topic=abuse%20and%20addiction%3A%20physical%20and%20verbal%20abuse

Verbal Bullying? What's That?

Verbal bullying can take many shapes and forms : insults ; name-calling ; comments on the way you talk or dress ; threats ; sexual harassement ( homophobic comments) : ethnoculturally based comments and teasing. Here are some of the myths regarding verbal bullying.

Myth #1

''Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me''

The sad truth is, the scars inflicted by verbal abuse can last a life life-time. While on most occasion the physical scars inflicted by physical bullying go away sooner than later.

Myth #2

''That’s not bullying, they’re just teasing''

But the reality is that if you or a friend are getting ''teased '' on a daily basis, it’s no longer just teasing, it is verbal bullying.

About Us

If you are a victim, a bully or just an innocent bystander of the inhuman verbal bullying, this blog is meant for you. In our elementary days, we were at the same time a victim, a bully or just a bystander. So we know the consequences that verbal bullying can have on childrens and teenagers. Our goal is to stop verbal bullying once and for all but we also want to help kids of all ages throughout the world and teach them how to fight against verbal bullying the right way. Always remember, if you fight back by hitting or insulting the bully, you are no better than them. With this blog, you will learn about the devasting effects, the horrific consequences and the humble advices and solutions to stop verbal bullying.